When Being Yourself Feels Dangerous: The Roots of People-Pleasing in Childhood Emotional Abandonment
People-pleasing isn’t a personality trait. It’s a survival strategy—rooted in a childhood where being real felt dangerous. When connection felt conditional, we learned to shrink, shape-shift, and stay agreeable to stay safe. But healing doesn’t mean saying no to everyone. It means saying yes without abandoning yourself.
The Shadows We Inherit: Why We Do What We Must (Until We Don’t)
We don’t always live by choice—we live by conditioning. Compulsions disguised as responsibilities. People-pleasing masked as kindness. Control mistaken for strength. This piece explores how inherited beliefs shape our decisions, and what it means to pause, question, and finally live from alignment instead of surviv